Fall Bucket List + Win a Pair of Hunter Wellies

I have this weird thing where I really can’t decide if my favorite season is summer or fall. It’s a major toss up. I guess they’re tied? There are so many fun things to do in each season and so many wardrobe changes I look forward to with each. Since fall in Utah is notoriously short before it decides to go on and be winter (boo!) I’ve got my bucket list all set up–hopefully we can accomplish everything before the first snow fall…which honestly here you just never know when that might happen. While I’ve lived in Utah the first snow has come as early as the day before Halloween. Yikes. But anyway, here’s my bucket list!

Fall bucket list

1. Visit the pumpkin patch

2. Go apple picking

3. Make pumpkin pie

4. Make caramel apples

5. Have a hot dog roast over the fire pit and make s’mores

6. Carve a pumpkin with Joshua

7.  Roast pumpkin seeds

One thing I love about fall weather is the rain. It’s nice to curl up inside on the couch with a snuggly blanket, a good book, and mug of apple cider. But when you do have to venture outside in the rain, you might as well do it in style! I’ve been absolutely obsessed with Hunter Rain Boots for a while and I’ve teamed up with 13 other bloggers to bring you the chance to win your very own pair! You get to choose the color of course!


Life Could Be a Dream // A + Life // The Modern Tulip // Kent Heartstrings
Elizabeth Loves // Hayes Days // T.O & Fro // Seasons with the Strattons
Life With Grace // Lace & Glaze // Just a Trace // Twin Stripe
Butcher’s Niche // Wetherills Say I Do

The giveaway will run from 12:00 am EST on October 22nd until 11:59 pm EST on October 28th. This giveaway is open to U.S. residents only. Prize has a value of up to $150. Entries will be verified, so please be honest. Winner will be contacted via email and will have 48 hours to respond and claim prize before a new winner will be chosen. Use the Rafflecopter below to enter. Best of luck to you! :)

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What is on your fall bucket list? What color of Hunter wellies have you been dying over?

I’m excited to introduce you to Martha Kate from Seasons with the Strattons! This girl is so sweet and genuine with a beautiful heart after God. She’s honest enough to admit her faults and share about embrace weakness. She’s got a love for cooking and shares delicious recipes like this killer Beef & Broccoli. On top of that, she has the sweetest love story–she met her baseball playing husband when she was just 14! Read on to get to know her better. :)

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Why did you start blogging?

I started blogging after I got engaged to keep friends and family updated on the start of our new chapter as husband and wife and our new journey in Minor League Baseball.  I mainly blogged just to send updates on my husband’s baseball career and our travels associated with Minor League life.  It wasn’t until the beginning of this year that my blog turned into more of a creative outlet and a way to share how God is using our Minor League journey rather than just a place to keep friends and family updated.  Seasons with the Strattons has really turned into one of my passions and not just a journal style blog.

Where is your favorite place you’ve traveled?

We travel a lot with my husband’s baseball career, but my favorite place we have gone is still Saint Lucia.  It is absolutely gorgeous and I would go back this second if I could!  We had the best week there right after our wedding in January of 2013 for our honeymoon.  I’m hoping an anniversary trip back to Saint Lucia might happen one day!

What is your best Halloween costume?

I’ve had a lot of great Halloween costumes over the years thanks to my mom’s picks during childhood.  But my most recent favorite is when my now-husband and I dressed up as old people for a Halloween party in college.  We were always known as the “parents” of our friend group, so dressing up like grandparents was only fitting. 

What’s your favorite dessert?

My favorite dessert is a hard one to narrow down.  I love anything chocolate, but I’m also a sucker for any type of fruit crisp or cobbler.  I also have a huge obsession with Tiramisu and any type of ice cream.  So I guess to sum it up, anything sweet!

Which TV series are you currently watching?

I’m loving the fact that all of my shows started back this month.  My current favorites are Grey’s Anatomy, Scandal, Law & Order SVU, and Nashville.  I’m not a huge movie person, so TV shows are my thing. 

The Creative Closet | Lovely Layers

I think this month’s set of prompts for The Creative Closet have been my favorite. They’ve all been very fall appropriate, but I think this one takes the cake as far as fall-friendly prompts go. Fall is for dressing in fun layers!


I’m so impressed with Maegen and Jessica’s outfits this week! Make sure to stop by their blogs to see the details of their awesome looks and to thank them for hosting with me this week! :)

Lately I’ve been really loving the look of layering collared shirts under a sweater–it definitely adds more interest than just wearing a button up or just wearing a sweater. My trusty chambray shirt was the perfect choice–dang that thing is versatile. :)



My favorite part of this outfit are definitely the boot cuffs though! I love the sweet button details! This pair came from the most darling Etsy shop, Oh Baby Crochet and More. Jessica has not only darling boot cuffs like these, but also scarves, baby blankets, baby hats and headbands. Today, you can head on over to my Instagram and enter to win a pair of Jessica’s gorgeous boot cuffs and a $25 Target gift card!

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Chambray: H&M (similar)  |  Sweater:  Thrifted  |  Pants:  H&M  |  Boot Cuffs: c/o Oh Baby Crochet and More (use the code DREAM20 for 20% off a purchase of $10 or more)  |  Boots: Target  |  Necklace:  c/o Pink Blush  |  Bracelet & Earrings:  Rocksbox 

Don’t forget: Next week’s prompt is Fabulous Flannel! Bust out those buffalo plaid shirts or your flannel infinity scarves. Next weeks prompt is sure to be cozy. :)

The Creative Closet October Prompts

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The Biggest Blogging Mistake I Ever Made

I’ve written a few posts about things I wish I had known when I started blogging, or what I wish would have done differently as a new blogger. This post is a little different though. There’s a huge mistake I made as a new blogger that I haven’t mentioned in any of those posts because in all honesty, I’m still pretty ashamed of it.

The biggest blogging mistake I ever made

Two years and a month ago, I published a post I’m so not proud of. Don’t look for it, because I sure as heck deleted it after I realized what a mistake it was to post.

My mistake was underestimating just how small the blogging world really is. At the time I published said post, my blog was tiny. I think I had maybe 30 followers. I wrote a post venting some pretty extreme jealousy I was feeling towards another blogger. My reasoning behind thinking I would be okay posting was, a) she doesn’t read my blog  b) my blog is so small hardly anyone else will read it either.

My other thought was that because I didn’t write it with the intention of being mean it would be okay. I wrote the post to get something off my chest. Something that had been eating at me for a long time. Something I was ashamed of and needed to let go of. I was tired of harboring awful feelings of jealousy towards someone I knew for a fact was awesome, sweet, and talented.

My mistake was that I didn’t think about how she might feel if she did read that post. As I said, I never thought she would ever come across it. But you know what? She did. And boy howdy, did I have a major, “tail between my legs” moment.

Lucky for me, the girl in question happens to be very sweet, understanding, and forgiving. She didn’t persecute me for it. She didn’t call me out for it either.

My point is this: don’t ever underestimate the power you wield with your words in your blogging space or with social media. Words that you don’t intend as weapons can still cut others like a knife. Don’t ever be as naive as I was and assume your complaints, grievances, or negative feelings are safe because you’re a smaller blogger and “no one” will see it. You never know. You never know how your split-second poor decision to hit publish could ruin someone else’s day, week, or life. So just don’t go there. Always consider how someone else might feel when they read your words. And if the answer is in any way negative, just click delete.

Don’t make the biggest blogging mistake I ever did. It’s not even any kind of worth it.

Have you ever said anything on your blog or social media you wish you could take back? 

Meal Swap

I absolutely love cooking, but for those of you who don’t, I’m excited to share this idea for saving yourself from one day in the kitchen from Cassie of Kent Heartstrings! :)

It is no secret- I hate cooking. I am not very good at it, I am not passionate about it, its a chore, something that has to be done.  Mike is the Chef. He makes the yummy stuff.  I make food that is tolerable for surviving.  He makes food that is for thriving. I am always looking for ways to make meals more simple, EASY, appetizing, and basically spending the least amount of time in my kitchen as possible…

Brainstorming one day (on how I can get out of kitchen duties) I thought if one day out of the week I could make a double batch of whatever I making and give it to a friend and another night that friend could do the same for me, then that is one less day I have to be in the kitchen (I did my math correctly, right?!) That one night neither Mike nor I need to worry about a dinner meal and can have more quality time with our family.

I asked friends of ours based on two important things:

1) have the same size family as us- 2 adults 2 kids and

2) live close by, maybe 1 mile away (that is key!) because some days you can deliver a casserole that can just be popped into the oven and ready whenever, but some days the meals are better fresh and have to be delivered to their door that night, so it would not make sense (for us at least), to add unnecessary commute time.

After asking our friends they were game!  So now we touch base on Sundays or Mondays and figure out what days that week are best for us to swap, for example, I do Tuesdays and she will do Thursdays.  Some weeks we choose to not swap, so we just communicate and figure out.  Again, its not supposed to add stress, but alleviate it- so if its a busy week and preparing/delivering a meal for two families is too crazy we just don’t do it.

Not only has this alleviated a burden (for me!) and given our family one night of extra family time, but it has exposed us to a different food palette. All families have their favorite go-to meals that get cycled into the meal equation every week. So its easy to get sick of your own food.  Its hard to branch out, because, well especially with me, they often do not turn out tasting very good =).  So it has been fun to be exposed to a different family’s go-to and try different meals to expand our comfort food palette. When a particular meal is a big hit we make sure to send each other the recipes.

Here are a few of our Family Favorites (5 year old approved!):

Cassie Kent is the blogger behind Kent Heartstrings and the hostess behind Kreative.  She is married to Mike, who keeps her grounded and the family always focused on Christ…and it helps that he can always make her laugh. They have been married for 6 years and live in southern California. Her world is her two children, Gigi who is 4 going on 16 and Charlie a 9 month old chunky monkey. She is a stay-at-home mama, but seems to never really be at “home”.  Her heart comes alive when she is creating. It doesn’t matter if it’s a messy egg-carton creature or a beautiful DIY home-decor piece, she is always keeping busy and working on a project or 2..or 3.

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Two Cold Weather Dinners: Potato Soup + Pumpkin, Turkey, and White Bean Chili

I’m excited to share two incredible, easy, comforting cold weather meals with you today! One of my favorite bloggers, Jaelan from Making Mrs. M is sharing her mom’s Potato Soup recipe and I’ll be sharing a Pumpkin, Turkey, and White Bean chili for the slow cooker.

Slow cooker pumpkin, turkey, and white bean chili

This pumpkin, turkey, and white bean chili has become a favorite at our house. As soon as the weather cools off, it’s my fall crock pot kick off meal. The pumpkin adds such a subtle flavor and a beautiful color. It’s a great way to sneak in some extra nutrition too, especially if you have picky eaters. We don’t have that problem at our house, thankfully.


Because I use dry beans instead of canned, this chili is truly a budget friendly meal. This recipe is really simple to throw together too! I do so love fix it and forget it meals. And can we talk about the wonderful smell that cooking in a crock pot always brings to your house? The best. Truly. :)

Pumpkin, Turkey, and White Bean Chili

1 1/2 cups dry white beans, sorted and rinsed
1 1/2 quarts chicken stock
1 1/2 tsp salt
1 lb ground turkey
1 medium onion, finely diced
2 cloves garlic, mined
1 15 oz can pumpkin
1 tsp cumin
2 tsp chili powder
1 tsp oregano
1/2 cup white cooking wine
2 bay leaves
1 can green chile
sour cream, green onion, and fresh chopped cilantro for garnish

Add your sorted (just make sure you don’t have any rocks or questionable looking beans!) and rinsed beans to your crock pot with the chicken stock and salt. Cook on low for 4 hours.

In a large saute pan, heat 1 TBS olive oil over medium heat. Add the turkey and brown, breaking the turkey up as you stir. Add browned turkey to the crock pot. Return the pan to the heat and add the onion, stirring occasionally and cooking until lightly browned. Add the garlic and cook for about 30 seconds, until fragrant. Add the pumpkin and spices to the pan and stir. Add the cooking wine and scrape the bottom of the pan to loosen all the browned bits–that’s where all the good flavor is! Scrape mixture into the crock pot. Add the green chile and bay leaves to the crock pot.

Cook on low for 4 more hours. Serve topped with sour cream, chopped green onions, and chopped cilantro.


Take it away, Jaelan! :)

Nothing says “cool weather” like some good old fashioned soup. My mom’s potato soup was a favorite of mine growing up, and now I make it on my own when the weather cools off. It’s not only delicious, it’s filling, too.


Potato Soup

Here’s what you’ll need:

6 slices of bacon
1 onion
1/4 c flour
4 lg. potatoes
1 qt. chicken broth
~ 1-2 c milk (or heavy whipping cream)
cheese (opt.)

Peel and dice potatoes (1/2″ – 3/4″). In a large stock pot, cover potatoes with water and bring to boil. Boil for 5 minutes. Drain most of the liquid off.

While potatoes are boiling, cut up bacon into strips. Chop onion and cook with bacon in a skillet. Fry bacon until almost crispy. Strain and set aside.


In hot oil (you may need to add some–it needs to cover the bottom of the skillet) add 1/4 cup flour. Sprinkle it in and stir. The product will be a glue-like consistency. Add chicken broth and bring to a boil.

Pour broth mixture into potatoes and add bacon and onions. Stir the whole pot well. Turn on high heat and bring to a boil while stirring. Once the soup is boiling, turn heat down to low and continue to simmer for 15 minutes.

Add black pepper and additional toppings (cheese) if desired. Serve in a festive bowl and enjoy a filling meal.


Enjoy your cooler weather dinners ladies! And be sure to stop by Jaelan’s blog to say hello and see what she’s sharing over there today. Knowing her, it’s fabulous. :)

My Fall Wardrobe Staples

Do you want to know something silly? Until this week, I haven’t owned a light jacket for almost two years. I know, I know. That’s pretty nuts. But see, being pregnant with Joshua caused me to outgrow almost all my jackets and coats. The only outerwear that still fit me afterwards was my charcoal grey pea coat and my trusty American Eagle hoodie from high school. I never really got around to buying a new jacket. So during transitional seasons (I’m looking at you, Spring and Fall!) I just kind of winged it. I either suffered being a little too cold by not wearing a jacket over my long sleeves, or I sucked it up and sweated in my hoodie. Super silly, I know. But now I don’t have that problem!


A structured, light jacket is obviously a fall staple–and you really can’t go wrong with a great neutral like olive green. I’ve loved that this jacket is easy to dress up or down. It works great with a simple tee and my boyfriend jeans, or a little more dressed up with a sweet floral dress.


Two more fall staples I really couldn’t live without are grey cable knit leggings and a good pair of neutral wedge booties. I wore these booties earlier this week for The Creative Closet and I’m sure you’ll be seeing them in several future posts as well. They’re so versatile–definitely a great investment for fall.




Olive green cargo jacket–fall wardrobe staple

Jacket: c/o Pink Blush (longer version here)  |  Dress: c/o Pink Blush  |  Leggings: Target  |  Booties:  similar  |  Necklace: c/o MeShe Designs

What are your favorite Fall staples?

How to Always Have Blog Post Ideas

A very frequent question I get asked in emails and blog consultations is “How do you always have blog post ideas?”

I get it. I’ve been in the boat where I was the person that thought it would be impossible to post Monday-Friday week after week. After I got into the swing of things and figured out where to look for inspiration though, it became almost easy. I’m not joking. My editorial calendar has post ideas sticky-noted into it partway into November. There is no shortage of posts that can be written and no limit to the ideas you can come up with if you just know where to look.

6 tips to help you ALWAYS have blog post ideas

1. Look at your most popular content

This is always an excellent place to look for new content ideas. You know people loved this stuff already. How can you elaborate on it? Put a different spin on it? For example, I wrote a post a while back called 7 Ways to Lower Your Grocery Budget. It’s one of my most popular posts to date. So then I wrote 7 MORE Ways to Lower Your Grocery Budget.

Check your most popular posts and get brainstorming how you can use those as a jumping off point for other content.

2. Browse magazine covers and news headlines

Blog Clarity has an excellent post that covers how to create your own unique post ideas using Magazine Headlines. I seriously recommend reading it, because the tactics are unbelievably helpful.


3. Use secret boards

I have a secret Pinterest board for every single category I write about on this blog. Any time I see a pin that sparks my interest, I think to myself, “Is there a potential blog post here?” If I can think of a way I could put my own spin on the inspiration I got from that pin, I add a few notes to the description, and add it to my secret board. Whenever I’m feeling stuck in the post ideas department, I consult my boards and it always gives me new ideas.


4. Share a little more of your story

Oftentimes when I get stuck in the blog post department is when my mindset is totally focused on offering some sort of information to my readers. Sometimes I just can’t come up with a clever new DIY, food, beauty, or blogging post. That’s when I sit back and think about what’s going on in my life or even think about my past and the moments that led me to where I am now. Those kinds of things make great post material! Sharing your heart is often what keeps people coming back to your blog, so taking stock of what you can share about yourself should help you come up with some stellar post ideas.

5. Look at what other bloggers are writing

Occasionally I come across a post that someone else has written and I think, “Oh my gosh, I want to do that too!” Some examples would be interviewing my husband, or sharing what’s in my bag. Both of those are things I saw on other blogs.

You have to tread this line very carefully though. Never ever, EVER, plagiarize someone else’s post. And if you create a post of your own using someone else’s idea, include a link back and give some credit. And for the love of Pete, make sure you do add your own spin to something so you aren’t being a copy cat. No one likes those.

6. Ask for ideas

It’s often helpful to use your readers as a resource. They’re the one’s who know what they like to see from your blog! Sometimes I’ll pick my reader’s brains by asking what they want to see me write about. Just a few weeks ago I tweeted asking what blog topics I should cover that I haven’t yet. I created 5 different post ideas from the answers. Another time I asked for recipes people would like to see me create. That led to the creation of one of my favorite desserts and a post that brings me consistent traffic every month.

What’s your secret to creating lots of post ideas?

Have ya’ll met Jaelan from Making Mrs. M? The thing I love about this girl is that she’s kind of a jack of all trades when it comes to blogging. She’s written posts where she has just cracked me up with her random sense of humor, she’s written posts like her proposal story  that make me feel extremely nostalgic, and she’s written posts that help me understand a little more about her and about myself and how worrying doesn’t solve anything. 


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Where is your hometown and what do you love about it?

I grew up in a small agricultural town about an hour and a half south of Dallas, Texas. I won’t even mention the name because it’s that small. I grew up with a plethora of critters running around. We had dogs, cats, horses, cows, goats, chickens, and one time even ducks! I love that growing up there allowed me space to run and grow. I also learned a lot about science living on a farm, which I find helpful and comforting as an adult.

What inspires most of your blog posts?

My blog post inspiration changes like my mood changes. Because it’s my mission to discuss, connect and share life’s small and grand adventures, I find inspiration to write where I find inspiration to live. My life and the people who make my life so full of love are my constant sources of inspiration. Of course, the entire purpose for beginning my blog was to chronicle my journey of becoming a wife. Now that the wedding is long over, I use the blog to connect with other women to celebrate the happy times and lift each other up in the hard times… but of course I have to throw a little makeup and style in the mix.

What’s your favorite place you’ve ever traveled?

I am absolutely in love with the island of Maui. We went for our honeymoon and I loved that there was plenty of adventure on the island, but also plenty of space to chill out and relax. That photo with me and the parrot? That was at our resort on Maui. His name was Bob. He tried to bite my new husband, but he was pretty smitten with me.

What is your favorite back to school memory?

Back to school time was always really fun for a nerd like me. My favorite back to school tradition was clothes shopping with my mom. Every year mom would load me up (and all the sisters who were still at home) and would take us to Northpark Mall in Dallas, specifically to Dillard’s. We would spend all day trying on clothes, putting together outfits, and making priceless memories. I still love shopping with my mom.

Which is your all time favorite movie?

Dallas Buyers Club. Yes. Well, No. Slumdog Millionaire. No. Well? Uhh–Argo. Oh man. This is a tough one. One of those three… today.

The Creative Closet | Classic Black

Happy Tuesday, friends! I hope Monday didn’t give you too much grief. I’m excited to see how creative you got with your closets this week with our Classic Black prompt. :)

The Creative Closet | Classic Black


Maegen and I are thrilled to have Rachel from The Rachel Emily Blog co-hosting with us this week! :)

I’ll be honest, this week I was doing some serious waffling when it came to choosing an outfit for this prompt. I had a few ideas, but none that I was really digging. Thankfully for me, Le Tote majorly came through for me this week! I got my tote on Saturday and opened it to find one of the shirts I got from my first tote (and loved so much I asked them to send it back sometime), a charcoal grey cardigan, and some gold jewelry. Score. The second I opened my tote I had the perfect outfit, just like that. If you want a seriously amazing way to refresh your closet for a major value, you can’t do better than Le Tote.

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Top, Cardigan, Bracelet, and Necklace: Le Tote |  Pants: H&M (old)  |  Booties: similar

Remember, next week’s prompt is Lovely Layers! Bust out yours scarves, boot socks, and jackets and layer those outfits up! It’s the perfect fall prompt, is it not? :)

The Creative Closet October Prompts

Please make sure your post is relevant before linking up! This is not the place to link up random posts, my friends. Sorry about that, but we have really specific intentions for this linkup. If you participate properly, I promise you will grow in your blogging community, your sense of style, and your creativity with your closet.

Remember to share either The Creative Closet button or a link back to one of the host blogs to let people know where you’re linking up.

The Creative Closet

Last, but not least, share your look socially using #thecreativecloset. 

Let’s get into it! :)

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Staying Well During Cold and Flu Season

Confession: I have a terrible immune system. I’m the type who usually catches any sort of respiratory bug going around. I’m the type who gets sick if I don’t get enough sleep, or if I get chilled. I’ve always been this way, but after a horrible case of pneumonia in the 7th grade that kept me out of school for 2 weeks, I’ve been especially susceptible to respiratory illness. It usually hits me hard. It’s no bueno, kids. :(

For me, the key to staying well during cold and flu season is preventive action. There are so many little things I do to prevent illness, and when I stay on top of those things, it works and it is so worth it. Because being sick on it’s own totally sucks, but being sick as a mom is 10x worse.

Staying well during cold and flu season with doTERRA

OnGuard+ Softgels // On Guard Foaming Hand Wash // OnGuard // Breathe // OnGuard Cleaner Concentrate 

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One of the things I love best about using essential oils is that I can not only use them to benefit me, but I can also use them on Joshua. I hate it when my little guy gets sick. It’s so hard to see him so miserable, and small children are so much more likely to develop complications from respiratory infections.

I’ve been rubbing OnGuard on Joshua’s feet every night before bed and despite the fact that we have had some yucky colds going around our church community, he hasn’t caught a single one since I started. The best part about using these oils is you can even use them on infants. When infants get sick, it is the scariest thing–but OnGuard makes it easy to protect them.

To use OnGuard or Breathe on an infant, just dilute the oils in a carrier oil (like fractionated coconut oil, olive oil, almond oil, or jojoba oil) using a 1 drop : 1 TBS ratio.

What kinds of things do you do to keep yourself and your family well during cold and flu season?

If you want information on how you can get doTERRA products at  wholesale price (25% off retail value), shoot me an email

5 Things I Learned About Myself While Planning My Wedding

Five Things I Learned About Myself While Planning My Wedding

I think we all have preconceived ideas of how our wedding day will turn out. For many of us, we’ve been thinking of that special day since we were kids. Those childhood daydreams turn into Pinterest boards dedicated to “My Future Wedding” and then once he puts a ring on it, we go into full-fledged planning mode.

For me, I remember being a teenager and thinking about my future wedding. I remember thinking how I would be much older, well spoken, mature and not at all shy. I would be completely grown up and have a 100% handle on what I was doing.

The reality of the matter? Probably about a week after I got engaged, I started wondering why jewelers didn’t hand out a wedding planning manual along with the ring. I had no idea where to begin. I had no idea what etiquette to follow and what was outdated. I became panic-stricken when I realized I was still shy, not completely mature and did have any sort of handle on what I was doing.

And you know what the funny thing about all of this was? My wedding day turned out fantastic and I ended up learning that I was just like that person I had envisioned as a teenager. Here’s what I learned about myself while planning my wedding:

1. I’m calm as a cucumber – I thought for sure I would be a bundle of nerves the day of my wedding. Leading up to the big day, I would burst into tears thinking about walking down the aisle or my first dance. I anticipated being up all night the night before the wedding going over everything. The reality was that I slept like a baby, woke up refreshed and had the time of my life getting ready for my wedding. The person who dropped off the bouquets at the house even asked me which girl was the bride. When I told him that I was the bride he said I was the most relaxed looking bride he had ever seen. I did have some tears that day, though. When I saw my husband waiting for me at the front of the aisle, I started to cry and I broke down during my wedding speech. Both instances were short and I quickly regained composure.

Bride Sitting

2. I don’t sweat the small stuff - I can be a bit of a control freak, just ask my husband. I like to have every detail planned out and pretty much schedule my days down to the minute. With the wedding though, I found I was a lot more laid back. The phrase, “Yeah, sure, that sounds fine” was uttered by me more in the year planning my wedding than in my entire life. I knew that on the day of my wedding all that mattered to me was how I looked (#sorrynotsorry I’m a girl!) and that I was marrying the man of my dreams. I think having this attitude helped me put everything into perspective and stay bridezilla free.

3. I need my friends – Getting ready on the morning of my wedding with my bridesmaids was one of the most special moments of that whole day. The girls I chose to surround myself with know me inside and out. They kept me laughing and knew exactly what I needed before I even asked. I don’t think I would have gotten through the day the same way had my bridesmaids not been there for me. They made me realize how important a good support system is and the value of genuine friendships.

Wedding Party Selfie

4. I don’t take life too seriously – A bird pooped on me on my wedding day and I laughed. I laughed until tears ran down my face. Why? Because what the heck else can you do? Nothing ever goes 100% according to plan and you just have to roll with it. There were a few small hiccups on my wedding day, as I am sure there are on most, but I decided to only focus on what was going right and ignore the little mistakes that no one noticed except me.


5. I stand up for myself – When you plan a wedding you learn a lot about people. You find out that people have opinions, and strong ones at that. Everyone thinks they are entitled to say their opinion, especially people that have already gotten married and are now self-proclaimed experts. It’s important to be polite but at the same time to take all advice with a grain of salt. I butted heads with people on a few issues and I was so glad I stood my ground because I ended up making the right decision. At the end of the day, it is your wedding day and you need to feel comfortable with all the choices you made so it’s best to stick up for yourself.

Planning my wedding was a huge task to take on. There were definitely highs and lows along the way, which come with anything. After it was all said and done, the memories I have and what I learned about myself is priceless.

For all the married women out there, what was one thing you learned about yourself while planning your wedding?

Tracey blogs over at Just a Trace – a fashion and lifestyle blog. She’s based in Ottawa and was married on May 24, 2014.

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